Misinformation about adoption is common. Expectant mothers often worry their child will be taken from them and they will never see them again. The truth is, as the expectant mother, you are in charge of the adoption process, which can help you feel more confident and in control.
You also have rights, such as choosing the adoptive parents and how much contact you wish to have with them after placement. Although True Care Women’s Resource Center is not a licensed child-placing agency, we can give you referrals to reputable adoption professionals in our area.
If you would like more information, please call or text our scheduling line at (307) 215-9684. In the meantime, here are 5 facts you should know if you’re considering adoption.
Fact #1: You Have Options
If you’ve decided to carry your baby to full term, you have two options: forming an adoption plan or choosing to parent. Often, women feel parenting is out of the question because they lack resources, but you may be surprised at what’s available.
Through a no-cost, confidential appointment, we can help you determine if parenting is right for you. If you decide to parent, True Care can provide referrals and assistance for many services. For instance, we can help you access medical insurance and healthcare providers, safe housing, food, transportation, and counseling.
For many reasons, parenting may not be the right option. You may decide that forming an adoption plan is best. Make sure you learn the pros and cons of both choices.
Fact #2: You Get to Choose the Provider That’s Right for You
There are several ways to form an adoption plan. If you personally know a couple hoping to adopt, you can work with an attorney to finalize the process. An adoption agency has access to many couples approved for adoption. Consider the benefits of a small, local agency vs. a large national one.
You can also legally place your child with a relative or close family friend. Make sure whoever you choose to work with provides thorough adoption counseling.
Fact #3: You Can Select the Couple That Raises Your Child
The adoption process changed dramatically in the 80s and 90s. Before then, a woman didn’t know who adopted her child or where they lived. Adoptees and birth mothers suffered greatly because of the lack of information.
Today, the expectant mother or birth mother can choose the adoptive couple. Most adoption agencies have access to a large number of couples waiting to adopt a child. You can learn about them by reading their bios or watching their video.
Once you’ve selected the couple that feels right for you, the agency can arrange a meeting so you can begin building a relationship immediately.
Fact #4: Create an Individualized Adoption Plan
There are three main adoption plans: open, semi-open, and closed. You pick the plan based on how much contact you want with your child and their family in the future.
An open plan allows you to communicate with the family immediately. You can exchange full names, phone numbers, or email addresses, whatever you’re most comfortable with.
If you would like more privacy, select a semi-open plan. You can stay in contact with the family, but all communication goes through the adoption professional first. No identifying information is exchanged.
You can also remain completely anonymous through a closed adoption. You have no future contact with your child or their family.
Fact #5: You Can Review Your Decision After Your Baby Is Born
Some states require a birth mother to wait a certain number of days before she can sign legal documents related to an adoption. Wyoming does not have a required waiting period, which means you may give your legal consent to an adoption at any time after giving birth.
However, it’s important to understand that you can also change your mind at any time before signing the document. Take time after your baby’s birth to determine if adoption is still right for you. Never let anyone manipulate or force you to make this decision.
Look to True Care for Answers
Do you want more information about your options and making an adoption plan? We’re here to help you in any way possible.
Request a no-cost, confidential appointment. If you need immediate assistance, call our 24/7 helpline at (800) 712-HELP. We’re always here to assist you with true care.